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When life sux

As the ride nears, I'm pondering end of life issues. Who inherits what, executors, blah blah blah. It seems cold to divide a person's life in this way. Now toss in cancer. I cannot fathom how your life can be tossed into a state of triage. Bruce and I think we'll be replanning soon, but with no children, I'm unclear if it is easier.

Did you plan before diagnosis? Did you see it coming? Does cancer change the perspective you had? Do you feel swayed to reorganize and prioritize or do the chips just fall where they may. These are questions I don't ask. I do know that my Moms will was updated or was it initially drafted, after she beat breast cancer. I know her perspective differs. I do wonder what if... What if they had said it was terminal? What then, it's not just life/you interrupted. There must be a billion things to do and take care of. It would drive me to fetal I think. I'd tell you if I can ride, I can cope, but I marvel at others mental tenacity.

What do you do when you life is interrupted?


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Aug. 5th, 2010 03:28 pm (UTC)
I don't know how BJ does it, but she has really worked hard to divide up, give away her stuff prior to her death. While I was there she had me bring in six remaining bins of stuff, Christmas decorations and ornaments from her now-barren garage. Most of her things have been eBayed, and she's used the money to pay her house note. She has two sons who have asked her to please not make them sort through a lifetime of her "stuff" and so, she has gotten rid of it all, one by one. I don't know how the hell she does it, but it ripped my heart out to see her curio cabinets and garage so empty.
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